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ive read everything bro, dis some wrack shit you got der

Fast reader. :/

And I've swallowed all of this down with little to no help from substances. What should I do then?

i dont know how you really feel and shit so i cant give you like really tips

& i dont do long distance relationship shit :-\ -- its like eating something that you dont know

or go hang out with her.. like go to a movie or something romantic orso to see if you still feel something for her n she for u
^probably not possible?

Love is defined differently by all; no one can tell you if you are in love with someone, before or now.

Ask yourself a few questions..
If you found out she was dating someone else, would you be crushed beyond what you feel now?
If she moved into your neighborhood, would you want her more than you do now?
If you would never break up, would you ever love her less?
Did you feel loved by her?
Do you still feel as if she loves you?
If she told you she hated you, and she meant it, would you still love her?

..if it's true love, it doesn't fade.
True love is eternal; if you feel any different now than you did before, you mistook true love for desires and illusions of love.
Questions such as the ones mentioned will tell you simple..whether you are still in love, or whether you just convinced yourself you were in love because you liked the feeling of being loved by her, or whether it was just a temporary illusion.
..no one can answer this for you.

or dis ^

@Light: she's 5000 km away from me, a movie date would be lovely though :/

@ Allie: to pretty much all of your questions it shows I truly do love her. I honestly feel that attached to her. I have questioned our relationship before, and was terrified but willing to accept and move on, but promised myself she'd still have a place somewhere in my heart.I mean she still does. Then why was I so happy over the fact that it may have been over?

Ask yourself what Allie just said and get with your friends (close friends) and smoke a little weed. Then while you're high, think about her and tell yourself this is my lucky girl.


^Works trust me, your psychological state when stoned (with close friends) has been proven to make you feel 2 times better, if you've been smoking weed alone, well don't when something like this is going on.

I get what your getting at but it's not like I'll be high all my life with her. It's good for thinking about situations that are less serious. And it works. Just that with this big of a mind-heart contradiction it will be hard regardless

The human mind is complex, and everyone reacts differently to different situations.
If you were happy that you and your true love are over, there are many reasons that exist, and not all of them mean you're not truly in love.


Think to yourself some of these reasons, and ask yourself if any hold true:

Perhaps you have no confidence that you and her will ever actually be together; you've thought to yourself long and hard that you've put yourself in a shell for this girl for a long time..has she been the same? Have you, kilometers upon kilometers away, been holding her back from what could be going on in her life?

Or perhaps, on the same track, you are starting to feel she deserves better? Seeing you for one month every few months at maximum is not what she deserves, but better?

Maybe you just want some time to yourself; there's a time for love and a time for alone time -- everyone has felt this, even people DEEP in love. Suffocation in a relationship is almost worse than being without your love.

And negatively thinking..maybe just a glimmer in your mind wanted it to be over; you love her, but you are tired of long distance relationships, and you're tired of waiting for the time to come for you to be together forever. Now that it's over, you have a while of rejoice, though it often follows by regret, and often comes with confusion; you want her back, you love her, you just don't want to have a long distance relationship.

The only girl I loved till now said  she "loves me too much to get under the blanket" with me, the other were hoes..
And NO endless walls of text can ever define love(so I won't bother) you have to feel it.
                                                                                       

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wincest.

Two years ago I went through the same exact thing you're going through right now..
..my solution was to wait it out; time heals all wounds, even heart-piercing ones.


There are several directions you can go from here, I can't tell you the solution that will work for you, and I regret that, but I can tell you the paths you may take:

Wait it out single for awhile; you'll feel the agonizing pain of the break up and be hurt and confused for many days to come. However, some day in the future, maybe you'll be able to get back with her; and it wouldn't have to be a long distance relationship then.

This is not suggested in any way, but some people might choose to help the pain caused by this by getting out and finding someone new; even the illusion of being loved by someone else helps to yield the pain from the loss of love by your true love.

Or..obviously..you can talk to her about getting her back. This might temporarily satisfy your unhappiness, but you'll just be starting the cycle once more until you're able to end the long distance relationship and be together in person without the worry of having to leave. I would only suggest this if one or both of the following conditions are true: you're afraid she'll meet someone new before you have the opportunity to be with her in person, or it won't be long before you can be together forever.

dats very sad poke

Quote from: Allie on July 30, 2011, 06:04:47 AM
Love is defined differently by all; no one can tell you if you are in love with someone, before or now.

Ask yourself a few questions..
If you found out she was dating someone else, would you be crushed beyond what you feel now?
If she moved into your neighborhood, would you want her more than you do now?
If you would never break up, would you ever love her less?
Did you feel loved by her?
Do you still feel as if she loves you?
If she told you she hated you, and she meant it, would you still love her?

..if it's true love, it doesn't fade.
True love is eternal; if you feel any different now than you did before, you mistook true love for desires and illusions of love.
Questions such as the ones mentioned will tell you simple..whether you are still in love, or whether you just convinced yourself you were in love because you liked the feeling of being loved by her, or whether it was just a temporary illusion.
..no one can answer this for you.

Wow...Rabi is amazed its so true

Quote from: Iridion on July 30, 2011, 07:08:44 AM
dats very sad poke

What Allie said is really true..

Anyway try to think for a few seconds this: If you two ended it, and she got another boyfriend, how would you feel?..

And about the happy tears. A lot of  my friends went through what you did, honestly I didn't but I kind of understood what those happy tears were. Most of the time, they are relieving tears.. I mean, from what I understood you had that thought that she had some1 else in her heart, so you already had those sad tears deep inside, but then when you went through her FB page, and got to that conclusion, you probably were relieved from that thought thinking you finally found out the truth.. Better not end it yet, because just from questioning that you truly love her, means that you are scared of not loving her. In other words, I can't say this for sure because I don't know you, but I'd say you actually love her.

I hope this helped, even for a bit. :)

we're kids, KIDS. y u dwell on love >.> i haven't yet.

lol lies @ the 10 girls bit :P

Lol Tricky xD.
I don't believe in love but meh.. Seems like he really loves her.

Quote from: dimon69 on July 30, 2011, 12:28:34 PM
Lol Tricky xD.
I don't believe in love but meh.. Seems like he really loves her.

You just contradicted yourself big time. we all know love is real, the one's who "don't believe it" are the underground hardcore romantics

Quote from: Tricky on July 30, 2011, 01:14:53 PM

Quote from: dimon69 on July 30, 2011, 12:28:34 PM
Lol Tricky xD.
I don't believe in love but meh.. Seems like he really loves her.

You just contradicted yourself big time. we all know love is real, the one's who "don't believe it" are the underground hardcore romantics

I knew I contradicted myself lol. xD And what does "underground hardcore romantics" mean? Sounds freaky  .__.

Quote from: Tricky on July 30, 2011, 12:10:41 PM
we're kids, KIDS. y u dwell on love >.> i haven't yet.

lol lies @ the 10 girls bit :P

I'm not trying to prove a point, just stating a fact. Like this wasn't even a "Hey I think she likes me, +1" This was actually all the chicks (half of which were sluts, no points.) that liked me.

@ Allie: She updated her facebook status, and she never updates her facebook status;

" A true n caring relation doesn't have to speak loud
A soft understanding is just enuf
bcoz........
it's not the mouth that really speaks , but it's the heart that feels"

We never talk about our relationship. Neither of us even asked each other out. It just happened. I feel it's directed to me, and it's safe to assume she is still interested. That post of the guy with all the hearts on that one pic? It's still there. She usually deletes that kind of stuff. Idk but it just seems like a friend zone thing.

She msg'd me earlier this morning as well. I think it should be ok, but I'll just take some time off this for a while. Shouldn't be hard because she's already so far away from me :P

Thanks Allie.

Quote from: Pokeh on July 30, 2011, 03:46:17 PMA true n caring relation doesn't have to speak loud
A soft understanding is just enuf
bcoz........
it's not the mouth that really speaks , but it's the heart that feels"

she sounds rere lol

Quote from: Tricky on July 30, 2011, 03:49:54 PM

Quote from: Pokeh on July 30, 2011, 03:46:17 PMA true n caring relation doesn't have to speak loud
A soft understanding is just enuf
bcoz........
it's not the mouth that really speaks , but it's the heart that feels"

she sounds rere lol

Oh the english? Consider it a fad where she's from. Evry1 update fbook statuz like....dis.

Well i will never have a sex life because wat bleeds for days and still live's is a work of the devil. btw im kidding >.> that is wat one of my friends said..

lmao did you just admit to dating your 1st cousin? or maybe i took that out of context?

Quote from: ihatemods on July 30, 2011, 07:02:25 PM
lmao did you just admit to dating your 1st cousin? or maybe i took that out of context?

Not at all.

Learn from it and move on. Honestly, it wouldn't have worked out.

I was expecting something a little bit more wallier from gavin.

 breh, you'll be fine



Edited out the link.

Quote from: ihatemods on July 30, 2011, 07:36:41 PM
breh, you'll be fine

Gratz, you will now recieve a warning .

EDIT: Rule #3. No pornography.

LOL I GET A WARNING FOR "PORNOGRAPHY"? I DIDNT POST ANY PICS RETARD. ITS COMPLETELY UP TO YOU TO VISIT THAT WEBSITE. BY THE WAY not like were all 12 here. seriously if you reported me because i posted a website, not even the link then your just childish.

Quote from: ihatemods on July 30, 2011, 07:44:13 PM
LOL I GET A WARNING FOR "PORNOGRAPHY"? I DIDNT POST ANY PICS RETARD. ITS COMPLETELY UP TO YOU TO VISIT THAT WEBSITE. BY THE WAY not like were all 12 here. seriously if you reported me because i posted a website, not even the link then your just childish.

I'm 11, didn't visit that site, and suggest no-one else will.

Quote from: zomniethe4 on July 30, 2011, 07:36:21 PM
I was expecting something a little bit more wallier from gavin.

Weird how on BOTS!! I would make 1-word posts and complain about Cursed's wall-o-texts but nowadays I build text walls as well. :P

Quote from: ihatemods on July 30, 2011, 07:44:13 PM
LOL I GET A WARNING FOR "PORNOGRAPHY"? I DIDNT POST ANY PICS RETARD. ITS COMPLETELY UP TO YOU TO VISIT THAT WEBSITE.

That doesn't make a difference, you posted a link to a porn site. No other MMO forum allows that so why would you expect it to be any different here?

Its ok. Real men cry.

Quote from: ihatemods on July 30, 2011, 07:02:25 PM
lmao did you just admit to dating your 1st cousin? or maybe i took that out of context?

Did you just post a link to the website I was on earlier today? =D

Stupid moderators. Edit the post at least and take off the link. >_>

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That's it Gavin? Fku.

Tbh, I only read like the first few sentences. Maybe I'll go back and read it in it's entirety and throw my 2 cents in later.

Quote from: Pokeh on July 30, 2011, 08:16:54 PM

Quote from: ihatemods on July 30, 2011, 07:02:25 PM
lmao did you just admit to dating your 1st cousin? or maybe i took that out of context?

Did you just post a link to the website I was on earlier today? =D

Stupid moderators. Edit the post at least and take off the link. >_>

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That's it Gavin? Fku.

I have solution. tell her make formspring then question with anon!!